We all have a desire to be heard, the problem is that not many of us listen. From birth, even without words, babies try to communicate – because they long to be heard. Mothers typically recognize the cry of their child because they’ve spent so much time listening.
We also see this with animals. Our miniature schnauzer, Dickens, has an interesting way of communicating, using his front paws to reach out and touch us when he wants something. He also barks incessantly at any threat outside our home. We’ve become so attuned listening to his bark that we understand when he sees a squirrel, cat or a human.
Listening requires action on our part, which we tend to forget. We get caught up thinking that action comes when we speak, which is why many of us have a habit of interrupting. Rather than listening to what others have to say, we start formulating our words, planning a smart response, and readying our reaction rather than hearing what others are saying.
One benefit to listening is that through listening we can become more receptive to change. After a conversation with Nathan, King David had a responsive heart to hear the Lord. In 2 Samuel 7, we understand the blessing that comes with listening, as when we truly listen, we grow closer to God. “Wherefore thou art great, O LORD God:” David proclaimed, “for there is none like thee, neither is there any God beside thee, according to all that we have heard with our ears.” (v. 22). Listening – not just laying out our prayer lists – is one of the most important aspects of our relationship with God.
Another blessing of listening is that it helps us to learn. When Paul and Silas preached the Gospel to the Berean Jews, we read in Acts 17:11, “that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so.” Mark Twain once said that, “Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you would rather have talked.” We cannot learn unless we listen.
Listening also helps us to deal with hard truths and to develop discernment. We are all guilty of avoiding topics that make us uncomfortable. Perhaps we feel less informed than the person we’re speaking with, but more often than not, we have a hard time accepting the truth – especially when the truth is not convenient. A great example of this is found in John 6. After feeding the five thousand, Jesus was preaching in Capernaum, and He went against the grain of the popular teachers of the day by sharing the truth: That salvation is found in Him alone – not in how much money we give away, or how frequently we go to church, or which family we belong to. This made a lot of people uncomfortable – it still does today – to the point that some of His followers left Him. “Many therefore of his disciples, when they had heard this, said, This is an hard saying; who can hear it?” (v. 60). Until we start listening, we will struggle to deal with the truth.
When we cease to listen, Proverbs 19:27 tells us that we “will stray from the words of knowledge.” The opposite of knowledge is ignorance. When people are rude, when they’re uninformed and spread lies, this is often a direct result of not listening. “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” (Proverbs 18:13). Not listening is not good. In James 1:19, we are called to be “swift to hear,” and “slow to speak,”. Unfortunately, many of us do the reverse: We’re swift to speak and slow to hear.
God speaks to those who listen, are we swift or slow to hear Him?
By Hope Reidt,
Hope Reflected