My children really wanted a dog. You know, something to love and care for; a new plaything that moves and loves you back. I reluctantly agreed. I did research on getting just the right fit for our home and schedule. Then I fell in love. I had no idea how completely enriching owning a pet could be. I have spent quite a few years being “pet free”, working and having children. I didn’t think I would have time for a dog, and I didn’t want the mess. Now I can’t imagine being without her. Our beautiful little Shih Tzu.
Although everyone must be careful and responsible when owning a pet, and meeting its’ needs, it is amazing how they indeed meet yours. Since our girl came into our lives I have had a feeling of balance, joy and calm…a great improvement to my mental health. I guess others who own pets feel the same way. Maybe it is the unconditional, positive regard they provide. You can mess things up, not meet deadlines, or forget to call someone, and the puppy still loves you.
Maybe it is the additional exposure to fresh air. I have never gone on so many walks and, trust me, I was never outside quite as early in the morning, taking my darling out to pee.
There is something about being out on a, crisp morning, breathing in the fresh air and feeling connected to animal and nature. Not to be too mushy, because, I also know that some mornings, particularly the first days of having a new puppy, or in the middle of a big snow storm, my warm bed made me feel much better than getting up.
But, seeing how excited she is to see me in the morning and those loving little licks and tail wags still make me smile, no matter what the weather.
Animals are such a positive tie with nature and give such energy; it is no wonder that since the beginning of time there has been a connection between people and animals. Great World leaders, actors, and people in high power jobs often retreat to their pets at the end of day for comfort and an escape from the day’s activities. This also works for people not in high power, flashy jobs, like children, seniors, yes, anyone. A pet can help to make you feel comforted, needed and loved.
Animals remind us that we have a place and are appreciated. We know people with pets live longer and also that many people with thoughts of suicide have chosen life because they own a pet and feel a sense of obligation to them.
It is also believed by many that stroking and holding furry pets decreases feelings of anxiety and reduces blood pressure. Some animals are used as therapy in many hospitals and seniors residences to bring about reminiscence and happy feelings.
Mental health is more than the absence of a diagnosis. It is an overall sense of wellbeing and contentment. Owning a pet really contributes to this. From my experience owning a pet has provided an opportunity for an additional sense of purpose and pride, many really funny moments and of course, puppy love. I have also met some really great people through my dog: neighbours who like to pet her, people who like to talk about dogs, children who can’t resist a dog, trainers, groomers and others.
I know pet ownership is not for everyone, but if you want to have some of the benefits without all of the responsibility you could offer to walk the dog of a friend or neighbour or volunteer at the humane society or animal shelter. They always need people and I think, people always need pets.
This article was written by Paula Frappier, a wife, mother and friend.
She is the Community Education Coordinator for the Geropsychiatry Service of the Homewood Health Centre and Trellis Mental Health and Developmental Services.
The “Open Mind” column is sponsored by several organizations concerned with mental health issues in rural Wellington and Dufferin counties. Contact Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) at 519-766-4450 ext. 231 or parkinsons@cmhagrb.on.ca with comments or suggestions. Access online column at www.dc-wd.org/open_mind.htm and for local mental health resources link to www.communitylinks.ca.
